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  • How to Stop Being So Hard on Yourself

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    Summary

    What do you tell yourself in your head? Do you speak well to yourself? Would you allow others to speak to you the way you speak to yourself? 

    In today’s episode, I talk about three main areas where you might be too hard on yourself. 

    Tune in to learn about: 

    • Turning mistakes into opportunities to grow as a person;
    • 13 things you should forgive yourself for; 
    • What to do if you feel you are too behind on being the person you want to be.

     

    Timestamps

    • [00:01] Episode overview
    • [02:25] Why is it great to make mistakes?
    • [04:04] How to stop making the same mistakes over and over again. 
    • [06:57] How upset would you be if your friend did THIS?
    • [08:09] Forgive yourself for these 13 things
    • [11:45] A practical self-forgiveness tip that actually works (I tried it myself) 
    • [16:24] I stopped repeating the same mistakes when I realized this. 
    • [17:18] Why putting up walls to protect yourself is a lose-lose. 
    • [19:06] Mind your business: STOP comparing!
    • [21:24] “What if what I want to do has already been done?” (my experience with this feeling)
    • [28:47] If you feel you are not making enough progress. Listen to this. 

     

    Key Takeaways To Tune In For

    • Comparison is the thief of joy. Nobody really takes pictures of themselves crying. You usually see the best of other people, and not their struggles.  
    • We’ve all made mistakes. Mistakes are learning lessons, not negative events. You know what not to do now, so you have a better starting point when you restart. Now that you know better, you can do better.
    • Remember, you don’t learn from your experiences…you learn from reflecting on your experiences. 
    • The hardest person to forgive is yourself. You probably would be shocked if your friends speak about themselves out loud the way you speak to yourself in your head.
    • When you put up walls to protect yourself, you don’t allow people to get close to you. You don’t give yourself a chance to be loved. 
    • Your life is not about you, your life is about what you contribute to the world that will help other people. You need to strengthen your mindset, so you can fulfil this purpose. 
    • We are all on different timelines. You are not late. You are not early. You are exactly on time. 

     

    If you ever wonder “What if what I want to do has already been done?” remember: 

    “It doesn’t matter if what you want to do has already been done, because nobody can do it like you” 

    Don’t you watch several people who make similar content? You probably do. Yet, you resonate with each of them on a different level. 

    People may relate to you more than they relate to other people.

     

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  • You Deserve Better.. But It’s Not Something You Wait On

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    Summary

    Do people keep taking you for granted? Are you spending too much time on other people? It’s time to take control of your life and set boundaries. 

    You have the power to decide how people get to treat you. Be actively in control of your life.

    Tune in to find out several things you can do to make sure you are respecting your own worth.

     

    Timestamps

    • [00:01] Episode overview 
    • [01:55] The MAIN reason people keep taking you for granted. 
    • [03:00] This is the first thing you need to do if people always take you for granted.
    • [05:31] Authentically showing up for people Vs. Doing things out of obligation
    • [07:08] Why communicating your boundaries to people helps you have better relationships.
    • [10:19] Why putting yourself first will give you peace (and it’s not selfish).
    • [14:23] One thing that is in your control in EVERY situation.
    • [17:57] If someone wants to vent to you, use this technique to limit negative energy around you. 
    • [20:50] Are you frustrated that people around you aren’t how you want them to be? Listen to this.
    • [23:22] Being solution-oriented: always remember this flat tire example.
    • [25:03] Managing the complainers around you.

     

    Key Takeaways To Tune In For

    • People keep taking you for granted because you keep letting them. You get to show the world how you want to be treated.
    • The first thing you need to do to stop people from taking you for granted is determine what you won’t accept from people and how you expect to be treated. Write it down. 
    • People cannot read your mind. People don’t already know how you want to be treated. Communicate your boundaries with people. 
    • You cannot be your best self for other people if you do not first take care of yourself.  Put your oxygen mask first before you try to help other people. 
    • Sometimes things are out of your control, but what is always in your control is your attitude. It is not about life or about other people, it is about how you react. 
    • You cannot use any love or influence to make people grow at the pace you want them to grow at.

     

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  • How You Do One Thing is How You Do EVERYTHING

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    Summary

    Do you believe the promises you make yourself anymore? Do others? If you answered no, this is for you. In this episode, I discuss 3 negative behavior patterns you are probably engaging in that are limiting your potential, and tips on how to create positive behavior patterns instead.

    Stop losing credibility with yourself. Stop losing credibility with others. 

    Tune in to learn how confidence and keeping your word are actually strongly linked to each other. 

     

    Timestamps

    • [00:01] Episode overview and trigger warning
    • [01:50] How many times did things go wrong for you because of THIS??
    • [03:20] 5 words that make your life more stressful 
    • [04:40] Are you guilty of disguising procrastination as a skill?
    • [05:33] Starting things and never finishing them 
    • [08:37] What makes you lose credibility with others and with yourself
    • [10:24] A discovery I made about how to develop confidence (self confidence hack)
    • [13:43] Examples of how you might be losing credibility with yourself
    • [15:10] How to stop overcommitting 
    • [20:20] Decide what you want to be known for instead.
    • [21:54] If you tend to overcommit, the next time someone asks you to do something, say THIS. 
    • [23:06] A hack to stop being last minute with everything.

     

    Key Takeaways To Tune In For

    • No matter what you tell yourself, you probably DO NOT work better under pressure. 
    • “I work better under pressure” is usually just code for: “I am a procrastinator”
    • You convince yourself that you work better under pressure, but in reality it is just that when the deadline looms that you start to take action. It is taking action that is allowing you to accomplish things, not being last minute.  
    • Never finishing things and going back to finish them later can create more work for you, because you might have to go back and fix it and you would also spend time trying to refresh your memory.
    • Accepting to do something without really thinking through if you are able to do it, you end up losing credibility with others and also with yourself. 
    • A way to develop confidence is to stick to your word. This way, the next time you try to accomplish something, you have your word to fall back on. You will know that everytime you said you will do something, you followed through. 
    • It’s not about what other people think, you need to think about what you think. Losing credibility with yourself is a big deal.
    • If people view you in a certain negative light, the first step to overcoming that is deciding what you want to be known for instead. You then have to take small steps that align with what you want to be known for instead. 
    • If you tend to overcommit, the next time someone asks you to do something, instead of immediately saying yes, start telling people “let me think about it and I’ll get back to you”. 

     

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  • How to ACTUALLY Accomplish Your Goals

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    Summary

    How many times have you set goals for yourself and nothing ever happens to them? Are you making false promises to yourself? Stop waiting for things to just happen. Stop disappointing yourself. Take these 5 actionable and practical steps today, to make that happen. 

    Tune in to learn how to move away from wishful thinking and start creating the reality you have been anticipating for too long now. 

     

    Timestamps

    • [00:01] Episode overview: 5 step process to accomplish your goals
    • [01:43] Step 1: Having an identity shift (how to make your words and actions match your goals)
    • [05:16] Step 2: Pro tips to create an effective vision board (3 vision board mistakes I’ve made and how to avoid them)
    • [11:54] Step 3: A technique to hold yourself accountable
    • [17:24] Step 4: The top 3 method (you’re probably checking the wrong things off your to do list)
    • [23:00] Step 5: Schedule a time, date, and place to accomplish each task
    • [27:00] Recap of all 5 steps that help you actually stick to your goals

     

    Key Takeaways To Tune In For

    • Your words must match your goals. For example: if you want to start waking up early and being productive in the morning, say that you are a morning person. 
    • A vision board helps you visualize your goals. 
    • Customize your vision board to be tailored to YOU: for example, Photoshop yourself into images of where you want to be. 
    • Make sure your vision board is focused on the current year. 
    • Don’t put too many quotes or words on your vision board. 
    • Think, feel, and act, in alignment of what you want to achieve. 
    • Set recurring meetings with yourself and track your progress against the goals you identified in your vision board. This trains you to remain accountable to yourself. 
    • 80% of the progress you will make is accomplished by 20% of the work you do. 
    • Pick 3 tasks per day/week that will make you feel accomplished at the end of the day/week, and make them the priority for the day/week. 
    • You can get an accountability partner to hold you accountable to your goals so that you make sure that you actually stick to them. 

     

    Resources Mentioned

    • Atomic Habits by James Clear

     

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  • Why You Are The Way You Are And How to Change

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    Summary

    If you ever wonder why you are the way you are, you can find answers by looking at your environment. In this episode, I discuss 3 aspects of your environment that have tremendous influence over your life. Improving these 3 aspects can take you to a better place in your life. 

    Tune in to learn what life audits you need to do today.  

    “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn

     

    Timestamps

    • [00:01] The biggest reason why you are the way you are (the fundamental tenet of life auditing)
    • [01:48] Why I chose to study what I studied (even though I didn’t like it)
    • [04:40] I suddenly had to move to a completely new place!
    • [06:23] The program that made me grow as a person
    • [07:18]Why my mentor made me go to rich people’s neighborhoods to look at their mansions (setting goals to benchmark your life audit on).
    • [10:28] Why are you the way you are? Break down your life in these 3 categories to find out.
    • [13:02] Where do the people you want to be like hang out? (and why that matters)
    • [14:42] Do an audit of your friends: Are there people in your circle who already do what you want to do?
    • [17:14] Do you need to know your mentor personally? 
    • [19:43] The beginning will be uncomfortable and intimidating.

     

    Key Takeaways To Tune In For

    • Your environment is arguably the biggest reason you are the way you are today. 
    • The 3 major aspects of your environment are: your living situation, your circle, and your mentor(s)/role model(s). If you want to change your life, focus on improving these three aspects.
    • Being around people who inspire you and create a positive atmosphere can enable you to grow in their presence.
    • Being around ambitious people can make you want a lot more for yourself and your life. 
    • If you want to own a Maserati, go to a dealership and sit in one. Make the experience you work for more tangible. If you want to live in a mansion, visit rich neighborhoods, make the goal more tangible. 
    • You need constant exposure to people who are already doing what you want to be doing successfully to keep you on track and to give you new ideas.
    • Having people in your circle on a similar path to you can keep you accountable.
    • The people in your circle don’t have to want the same thing in their lives as you do in yours, but they do have to be people who keep you accountable and uplift you. 
    • You don’t need to know your mentor personally, someone can be your mentor from a distance.
    • Beginnings will be uncomfortable and intimidating. Learn from people who are ahead of you and try to add value to their lives. Eventually, you will start fitting in more and growing more because you will have made a lot of progress.  

     

    Resources Mentioned

    Never Eat Alone

     

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