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Do you feel things keep happening TO you? Do you feel like you don’t have control over your life? I get it. I felt that way too. It was the worst point in my life. Today, I am in a positive and happy place. 

This is the story of my rock bottom. But, ultimately,  it is a story of triumph. 

Tune in to learn how to overcome victim thinking to create the life you seek.

Remember, “It is ok to feel”.



  • [00:01] Episode overview and trigger warning
  • [07:08] The worst point in my life: trying to hide in plain sight
  • [10:08] Scheduling my crying sessions (spoiler: it didn’t work)
  • [12:19] Why? 
  • [13:24] Balancing suicidal thoughts with masking my pain 
  • [15:39] As I was about to do it, God literally intervened. 
  • [23:18]What I realized about why I wasn’t healing
  • [26:27] I forced myself to do THIS.
  • [27:18] If people compare their problems to yours, remember this. 
  • [29:56] Turning bad experiences into learning experiences 
  • [31:18] What is the victim mentality and do you have it?
  • [31:33]How you STOP feeling victimized and START living the life you want 
  • [36:04] What happens when you shift away from the victim thinking
  • [37:20] Going from contentment to happiness 
  • [39:15] The past made sense when I traded the victim mindset for a positive mindset
  • [41:35] 3 things I learnt from losing the mindset of victimhood 
  • [48:18] If you are going through a rough patch now, this is how you make it make sense 
  • [54:08] When I don’t have something I want, I do this. 
  • [56:33] Two ways to avoid relapsing into the victim mentality


Key Takeaways To Tune In For

  • Part of the reason I wasn’t healing is that I wasn’t facing what was making me feel depressed. 
  • Avoidance just makes things pile up and make you feel even more overwhelmed. 
  • Forcing yourself to feel what you feel is the first step to healing.
  • People may compare their struggles to yours to belittle your struggle, shut that noise out. Remember, it is ok to feel what you feel.  
  • It is ok to be out of service for a few days if that’s what you need. 
  • Life will put you in the same situation over and over until you learn what you are supposed to learn. 
  • Having a victim mentality is thinking that things keep happening to you. You can escape this by looking at things as happening FOR you rather than TO you. 
  • Leaving victim thinking behind and replacing it with positive thinking can explain why things were going wrong for you in the past. Things that did not make sense will start making sense. 
  • If you are going through a rough time now and it doesn’t make any sense, keep going through it. Be introspective and ask yourself many questions.
  • Your mindset is the first step to changing your life and your thoughts are more powerful than you think.


Resources Mentioned

The Magic of Thinking Big

Tyler Perry – Higher is Waiting

The Power of Positive Thinking


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